Theories to Ponder

Don’t be a Victim of Culture

An awareness of victimhood culture is a step towards true social justice. How “thick your skin is,” and how you respond when you feel insulted is not just determined by your personality or your past experiences- it is also very much influenced and reinforced by the moral culture of those who surround you. The moral culture that you identify with can have profound effects on your personal well-being, and far-reaching societal impacts. It can affect the trajectory of your life. Being aware of the moral culture of those around you can offer up some big ah-ha moments, an opportunity to better understand moral conflicts, and the

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My Thoughts

Hope is Not an Emotion; It’s a State of Mind

What comes to mind when you think about the word hope? For me, it’s wall art and mugs; “hope” written in cursive, accompanied by words like faith, love, and dream. It is not a positive association. As much as I love to feel inspired, I am not a fan of inspirational décor. It doesn’t suit my taste, and more importantly, I think it dilutes the meaning of words that are actually profound concepts. Reclaiming and connecting with the meaning of the word hope, requires a reintroduction.   Defining Hope We often say we “feel” hopeful, but hope is not actually an emotion. It is a way of thinking or a cognitive

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Theories to Ponder

You are Not Just Tired, You are Depleted

The Seven Types of Rest that we All Need   I’m tired, but I don’t need more sleep. Although we think of sleep as the antidote to being tired, this isn’t always the case. We often use the word “tired” to say “I no longer want to endure/deal with that.” We say “tired” when we really mean that we feel fed up, used up, or drained. What we really are is depleted. Sleep is the ultimate rest, and without it, our ability to function is diminished in all areas, but it is not the only kind of rest that you need. As many of

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Theories to Ponder

Your “Self” is a Work of Historical Fiction

What Personality Psychology has to teach us about inner growth and crafting our identities.   “I was sitting in a taxi, wondering if I had overdressed for the evening when I looked out the window and saw Mom rooting through a dumpster.” This is the opening sentence of Jeanette Walls’s book The Glass Castle. It is a memoir of surviving an unconventional childhood in poverty, and a fascinating look at one person’s experience of creating the narrative that defines who they are. Personality Psychologist, Dan McAdams says that we all have an “evolving story that integrates a reconstructed past, perceived present, and anticipated future

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My Thoughts

7 signs that we are Entering a Wisdom Renaissance

I want to introduce to you the idea that we are entering into a wisdom renaissance. Given all that has occurred politically and culturally over the last several years, this may seem like a crazy idea to some, but I am going to make my case here by pointing to some current cultural trends that are all ultimately aimed at cultivating wisdom. Keep in mind the findings of The Berlin Wisdom Paradigm, which identified these 8 traits of the wise person: They are open to new experience They are growth-oriented They are creative They are progressive and judicial thinkers (thinking critically, with an open

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Book Review

The Good Life

We all want to live a good life.  We want to be happy, we want those we love to be happy, we even want our pets to be happy.  But what does this really mean?  Does it mean that our main objective is to live a life filled with only positive emotions- pleasure, comfort, excitement? Most of us are aware enough to realize that perpetual happiness is an impossible dream.  Many of us are also aware that we desire more than just happiness; we want meaning, purpose and engagement in our lives. We may have a desire to serve something greater than ourselves even

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