May 2021

My Thoughts

The Fundamental Flaw of How-To Self Development Advice

Have you ever noticed how much people seem to love self-help how-to articles? We are suckers for an interesting story about a clearly defined problem- one that personally resonates with us, and then we want to be told how to solve that problem with actionable steps. We want a quick and dirty list, a step-by-step map to becoming a better/happier/more productive human. The problem here is that suggesting action, without talking about what is getting in the way, is a half-baked solution. It can feel inspiring, but it is a backward and ineffective way to achieve inner growth. As a culture we are focused on “doing” (more, differently, better), but

May 31, 2021 No Comments

Theories to Ponder

You are Not Just Tired, You are Depleted

The Seven Types of Rest that we All Need I’m tired, but I don’t need more sleep. Although we think of sleep as the antidote to being tired, this isn’t always the case. We often use the word “tired” to say “I no longer want to endure/deal with that.” We say “tired” when we really mean that we feel fed up, used up, or drained. What we really are is depleted. Sleep is the ultimate rest, and without it, our ability to function is diminished in all areas, but it is not the only kind of rest that you need. As many of

May 23, 2021 No Comments

My Thoughts

You Need a Personal Manifesto: Here is How to Make One

Many of us humans live a life of constant comparison. Sometimes it is beneath our conscious awareness, and other times it’s painfully obvious. We judge our self-worth, success, intelligence, and attractiveness by comparing ourselves to others. This tendency explains why there is a whole website dedicated to photos of socially unacceptable Walmart shoppers- we feel better about ourselves in comparison to them. Unless you plan to forever surround yourself with people who have less desirable qualities than you, self-worth derived through comparison will never elevate you. This is a self-defeating way to live, one that will leave you adrift with a sense of never

May 10, 2021 No Comments

Theories to Ponder

Your “Self” is a Work of Historical Fiction

What Personality Psychology has to teach us about inner growth and crafting our identities. “I was sitting in a taxi, wondering if I had overdressed for the evening when I looked out the window and saw Mom rooting through a dumpster.” This is the opening sentence of Jeanette Walls’s book The Glass Castle. It is a memoir of surviving an unconventional childhood in poverty, and a fascinating look at one person’s experience of creating the narrative that defines who they are. Personality Psychologist, Dan McAdams says that we all have an “evolving story that integrates a reconstructed past, perceived present, and anticipated future

May 3, 2021 No Comments

The Fundamental Flaw of How-To Self Development Advice

You are Not Just Tired, You are Depleted

You Need a Personal Manifesto: Here is How to Make One

Your “Self” is a Work of Historical Fiction

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